New/Old Blog Name

After my divorce, I was very angry that my ex , nor anyone in his family, cared to keep in any contact with our children. I was angry that they made no attempt to be in their lives in any way.

 I felt that if they didn't want to put forth the effort to be a part of their lives, they didn't deserve to see glimpses of it here on my blog.

 I also felt I needed a place to jot down the things I was feeling. Most of the time, I can't describe my feelings. Most of the time I feel I am just writing in jumbles but, I need a place and so.. I made that place here.

 The problem with changing the make up of this blog was, I was only hurting me. The people I was trying to prevent from seeing what was going on in my children's lives didn't care and weren't affected by the fact I stopped... In fact, they probably never even noticed.

 And, why can't I have a blog that I journal the things we have done as we are, our new family unit and one that I type my jumbled thoughts when they prick my fingertips?

 And so, I have decided to take on my old name. Taking Time to Smell the Flowers!

 Because, that is what we do. In all the madness, in all the ciaos of our new life... we are still taking our time to smell the flowers. To love each other, to grow, learn and laugh. To see the good in people and the beauty in things.. The divorce has taken a lot from us.... but it WON'T take away our ability to be happy/content  regardless of the state our life is in...  (Phil 4:11).  Sure we are sad. Sure anger and forgiveness are something I battle (and I mean battle) daily. But those things don't define me.

 My ex left the picture. He chose to walk out and change our family dynamic but, that just means we can create a new picture. So what that we didn't want to. So what that we didn't ask for it. Regardless of why... we have to and why not make it BEAUTIFUL?

 I made this my photo cover on Facebook. 

We will be making the best of our lives. I feel badly for those who chose to leave our lives. I can say that it is their loss (and my kids.. more on that later) So, while they move on with their lives ... 

We will be moving foward and ..  taking the time to smell the flowers...together!