Bill Cosby says: "I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody.”
I needed to read this today. I do spend a good portion of my life trying to do this. I am a lover, I love deeply and even in love I can and do and say things that harm the feelings of those that I love deeply. Often times, unknowingly and sometimes, it comes out or is brought to my attention.
When this is the case, I am SICK.. I mean physically I do get sick. I can not sleep, I can not eat and I can not function. I think over and over about this and I just wish it to go away so badly .. it doesn't.
Sometimes, an apology will make the person offended forgive and forget and other times it will not.. either way, forgiveness or not, it kills me.
I believe what Bill Cosby is saying here is not that we shouldn't try and please eachother and be nice to one another but, it is people like me take it to the extreme. The reality of life IS that I AM going to offend people knowingly or not knowingly (tho I do try to not hurt people knowingly I AM human and have and I am sure will act in haste at times) but, it is going to happen. I AM going to lose friends or foes and not everyone is going to like my personality. So, I have to learn that and while it will sting as, I am a human and I have a heart, I can not let it consume and and physically make me ill.
This is going to be something that I plan to work on in 2012. I am not sure how to physically do this so I am going to be doing a lot of praying and seeking the Lord about this. It has been a habit that has built up for 34 years. It is not going to be something that just instantly goes away (tho I so wish it could and will pray that it does if it be Gods will)
I have to know that I know my own heart. I know my own intentions and while i can not say things like "I know my heart and my and my intentions so who cares what others think." because I DO have to be mindful of peoples feelings but, If I make it right, I can not dwell on the fact that they had thought ill of me. Some people will think your intentions ill no matter what you do. In those instances I have to know that that is THEIR problem not mine.
Oh it looks so good on "paper" doesn't it?
I am looking forward to the NEW year. Looking forward to seeing what the Lord has in store for my family. God has been so good to me, I am undeserving. But, yet he continues to bless me.
HAPPY NEW YEAR to you all!!!!!
Edited to add this .. I found it after posting my blog. This blogger says some of the things I have said or felt. I do not know this blogger, I have never read anything else from this blogger. I am not promoting them... just liked what was said about this topic is all :)
1 comment:
Very true.. and I say this as somebody who seems to easily offend people. I don't understand it at all, but perhaps that isn't the point.
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